Location: Somewhere between the Real World and Tyria ;P
Guild: The Gothic Embrace [Goth]
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Originally Posted by Old Warrior Dood
Way Way back in another century before I was married we (typical group of young guys) went to this one bar called "The Phone Booth". (This was before Cell Phones too)
Every table and booth in the place had a phone with a number up on a stand that could be read from a distance. (They were all "princess phones" too BTW) You could just call up a table and chat with whoever. Nice novelty at the time.
Good times.
That sounds like a good idea LOL.
Most of my closest friends have developed long term relationships over the internet (more than through real life). We are quite sure one of them is gonna get married soon although he always denies it when we ask LOL he pretends like he's a player even though she's the only girlfriend he's ever had. I think they worked for them because of how like someone said it's direct communication - at first you don't have to be nervous or worried about your appearance or if you chose the wrong aftershave (a big deal for some).
I have met some people online that have become good friends with. Some girls have tried to take it further but I didn't want to, usually because they are on the other side of the world LOL. I don't really spend any time at all in chat rooms any more but I did a few years ago. I'm just very social IRL and like meeting people in person. Often it's easier to communicate face to face. There are also many like minded (including attractive girls) people at uni. GW made get in contact with more people online and there are a lot of nice folks. Anyways if you found love online good for you I'm already preparing jokes about online relationships for my friend's wedding since I bet he'll pick me for best man.
I actually got married to someone I met first on the computer. We knew of each other very well in RL, but had never met (through a mutual friend of sorts), but when her freind (my ex) did me wrong she was there for me, and it kinda just grew (very quickly) from there...
We were married Monday, and so far it's rather interesting. Car was stolen Tuesday. Been REAL interesting...
I actually got married to someone I met first on the computer. We knew of each other very well in RL, but had never met (through a mutual friend of sorts), but when her freind (my ex) did me wrong she was there for me, and it kinda just grew (very quickly) from there...
We were married Monday, and so far it's rather interesting. Car was stolen Tuesday. Been REAL interesting...
Yes honey it certainly has been interesting... well at least we'll never be bored.... I am all for interweb friends... they happen to, well in this case, turn out to be the greatest blessing EVAR! Eyebrow x piercing = ouchy + Kayin kisses = **la sigh** ahhhhh Miss you hubby....
oh and that friend .... grrrrrr.... I feel so sorry for those other boys... maybe this engagement will be good for her... come to think she meets most of her boyfriends online someway doesn't she? How did she meet you? Anywho... ladida...
Location: Somewhere between the Real World and Tyria ;P
Guild: The Gothic Embrace [Goth]
Quote:
Originally Posted by Serafita Kayin
I actually got married to someone I met first on the computer. We knew of each other very well in RL, but had never met (through a mutual friend of sorts), but when her freind (my ex) did me wrong she was there for me, and it kinda just grew (very quickly) from there...
We were married Monday, and so far it's rather interesting. Car was stolen Tuesday. Been REAL interesting...
Change the nerf bat thing above your avatar pronto
i have met a bunch of people that i've gotten to know on the internet. not just for dating, but for friend relationships. i've met 3 guys for dating and god knows how many people for friends. the main reason that i didn't want to continue the dating was because of the distance. everyone was just too far away to really get something going. the guys that i dated i don't see anymore, but everyone that i met for friend relationships, i still see and talk to online.
I go on a weeks vacation and miss the prefect thread to reply in, now I'm not so sure I can cognitively answer this question. Fortunately I have all day to type up a reply, which is probably how long it will take.
I'm going to answer this backwards, providing a little sense of which direction I'm coming from: If I met anyone face to face there would be almost complete silence, as I have a terrible time talking to people in person at first. Not only that, but my brain tends to get way ahead of my mouth and a lot of times what I say makes no sense as I skip important parts.
This is more difficult to answer than originally thought, if I just start to answer without background info, it doesn't tell you anything. If I provide background info, then you may or may not know more than I want to say, not that I will ever run into any of you(oh hell, just answer already-said to self).
I've made more friendships over the net than in person, mostly because on-line I open up sooner, not to say that I have a different personality on-line than off(maybe I do though). Another issue I have is getting along with my peers, I don't relate well to others in my age group, not even my wife, I only have 2 friends that I've known since HS(almost 25 years ago now) and I don't even talk to them much. Most of it is due to my radical thinking, but that's my problem, I've even taken on the status of a father figure to the young women(not girls, learned that in a class I had to take), which I thoroughly enjoy. One of them is even, get this, my best friend and confidant, she knows all my secrets and I'm not afraid to admit it's all been over AIM or via e-mails. None of this probably makes any sense, I know what I'm trying to say but am having difficulty articulating it, I'll probably come back and edit this at a later time, when I can think more clearly, or I'll leave it and let you read into it what you want.
the whole meeting bf/gf over the internet just doesnt do it for me... dunno why, I just dont feel comfortable.
Id rather meet some transvestite called 'Al' face to face rather than: "Ill meet you in district 5, Ill get some of my buddies and we'll get married..."
I talk to people over the net and have made friends but that is it. the end. no relationships.
Im not criticising anybody here who has met people over the net, all power and good luck to you.
If I met anyone face to face there would be almost complete silence, as I have a terrible time talking to people in person at first. Not only that, but my brain tends to get way ahead of my mouth and a lot of times what I say makes no sense as I skip important parts.
I've met several nice people that are in my guild and we communicate with team speak almost every day. I share similar views about people that I meet in person. I'm usually so on guard that no one every really gets to know me except for my immediate family. I'm 35 years old, married, with 2 kids, and the older I get the more people expect me to fit into a certain mold. If I don't fit into their mold of how a 35 year old man should act then I'm looked down upon as being an immature person. I know its not just me, but I work in an office from 9-5 and everyone is expected to act like mature adults in the work place, I've never told anyone at work that I like to play video games in my spare time because I'm some what afraid of being judged.
It's so much easier to make friends online, especially in online games like guild wars. To start off, everyone is on a level playing field in terms of social status. For the most part we are all in the game for the same reasons, to have fun and make friends. Age, Sex, & Race just don't seem to matter when you have total control of your environment. Everyone wears a social mask. You must look beyond the mask to see the person.
I'm 18 years old and have never had a crush on anyone or gone on a date. I have absolutely no experience with this sort of thing, although its more of a racial/religion issue more than anything. But honestly, do you people who have had relationships with people online feel entirely comfortable with it? I mean, how do you know they aren't lying, or not even the right gender, or something like that?
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I'm 18 years old and have never had a crush on anyone or gone on a date. I have absolutely no experience with this sort of thing, although its more of a racial/religion issue more than anything. But honestly, do you people who have had relationships with people online feel entirely comfortable with it? I mean, how do you know they aren't lying, or not even the right gender, or something like that?
Well there's something called a trust factor =P. I'm engaged to my lover and we met online and I'm happy. I mean it wasn't a simple random chat room filled with all kinds of weird people.
To me it's just something more.. A feeling I guess. But you don't put all your eggs in one basket.. I mean we talked on the phone, webcam, pictures the works and once I knew who I was talking to we met.. and once I saw the real person I was with and viceversa (Again it's not just you it's the person on the other line as well) then came the true trust, relationships and etc.
It's all based on who you trust and are you opened minded and comfortable with that person.
@Fenril: this is quite a sad story u got there..i ll never get it men acting like that ...
That kinda guy rlly suck...
I can understand how it feels, but looks like u wanna get over it .. that's good
So do I, but I think it's more about excitement than lack of confidence. Usually when I do it, I'm thinking ahead about what to say next and just get excited about my next thought and end up skipping to "the good part." Funny thing is, whoever I'm talking to typically understands what I meant and says nothing, leaving me to slowly realize (several minutes later) that I skipped something.